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Testimonies

2008-08-07T19:36:06Z

Islandrose:

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*[[THE LIES I BELIEVED]]
*[[Near Miss Harmed Me Emotionally]]

==Men's Testimonies==

==Other Parties' Testimonies==

==Reviews of Books Related to Abortion Experiences==

FORGIVEN of murder...A True Story by [[Denise Mountenay]]

This rivetting book is a candid account of a young woman who believed the lies about abortion, and like many women today, tragically used abortion as a violent form of birth control...and has paid a deadly price for it. There are also references and other testimonies from women hurt and damaged by legal abortion. Denise shares her spiritual journey and her favorite song is Amazing Grace. Rev. 12:11

Today Denise is a dynamic international speaker who has been interviewed on many television talk shows and radio stations. This book is sure to encourage prolifers, convert prochoicers and save babies from being exterminated. It is a good resource book for Pregnancy Crisis Centres, High Schools, Church and school libraries...

She is currently working on a new book called, The Bride...and Birth Control?

To Order these books or a Power Point Presentation send $20.00 for each to:
Together for Life Ministries
107 Discovery Ave. Morinville, AB. Canada, T8R 1N1
www.canadasilentnomore.com

[[Category: Testimony]]

User talk:WikiSysop

2008-08-07T19:35:24Z

Islandrose: /* Can't email you */

[[User:WikiSysop/sandbox|My sandbox]].

I am willing to help out. [[User:PatG]]

== Can't email you ==

Hello! Your user page says 'If you are logged in, you may leave a message for me on my discussion page or email me using the link in the toolbox to the lower left." However, when I click on the 'E-mail this user' link, I get a message that says: 'This user has not specified a valid e-mail address, or has chosen not to receive e-mail from other users."

:Sorry. Fixed it.--[[User:WikiSysop|WikiSysop]] 17:16, 6 August 2008 (UTC)

Oh. Well, it's broken again, and in the very same way, too. I give up.

I think this site has amazing potential and it is a fine idea. However, the number of things that are broken or out of order around here suggest that you have done little or no user testing before making the site live. I have used many wikis, and all without problems. But this one - oh my gosh! - it's the digital equivalent of a building with 'out of order' signs all over the place. Good luck with it. I hope you get it straightened out one day.

User:Islandrose

2008-08-07T19:23:40Z

Islandrose:

I'm new here. It seems that this website could become a helpful resource, so I thought I'd check it out and see what its' like. So far I've just been frustrated by technical glitches, so I probably won't stick around.

User:Islandrose

2008-08-06T20:23:03Z

Islandrose: New page: I'm new here. It seems that this website could become a helpful resource, so I thought I'd check it out and see what its' like.

I'm new here. It seems that this website could become a helpful resource, so I thought I'd check it out and see what its' like.

User talk:WikiSysop

2008-08-06T15:48:24Z

Islandrose: /* Can't email you */ new section

User talk:WikiSysop

2008-08-06T15:47:43Z

Islandrose:

[[User:WikiSysop/sandbox|My sandbox]].

I am willing to help out. [[User:PatG]]

User talk:WikiSysop

2008-08-06T15:46:51Z

Islandrose: /* Can't email you */ new section

Testimonies

2008-08-06T05:15:55Z

Islandrose:

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*[[THE LIES I BELIEVED]]
*[[Near Miss Harmed Me Emotionally]]
*[[An abortion helped me hide my affair. Now it's 15 years later....]]

==Men's Testimonies==

==Other Parties' Testimonies==

==Reviews of Books Related to Abortion Experiences==

FORGIVEN of murder...A True Story by [[Denise Mountenay]]

This rivetting book is a candid account of a young woman who believed the lies about abortion, and like many women today, tragically used abortion as a violent form of birth control...and has paid a deadly price for it. There are also references and other testimonies from women hurt and damaged by legal abortion. Denise shares her spiritual journey and her favorite song is Amazing Grace. Rev. 12:11

Today Denise is a dynamic international speaker who has been interviewed on many television talk shows and radio stations. This book is sure to encourage prolifers, convert prochoicers and save babies from being exterminated. It is a good resource book for Pregnancy Crisis Centres, High Schools, Church and school libraries...

She is currently working on a new book called, The Bride...and Birth Control?

To Order these books or a Power Point Presentation send $20.00 for each to:
Together for Life Ministries
107 Discovery Ave. Morinville, AB. Canada, T8R 1N1
www.canadasilentnomore.com

[[Category: Testimony]]

Testimonies

2008-08-06T04:15:52Z

Islandrose:

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*[[THE LIES I BELIEVED]]
*[[Near Miss Harmed Me Emotionally]]
*[[An abortion helped me hide my affair and move on with my life. Now it's 15 years later....]]

==Men's Testimonies==

==Other Parties' Testimonies==

==Reviews of Books Related to Abortion Experiences==

FORGIVEN of murder...A True Story by [[Denise Mountenay]]

This rivetting book is a candid account of a young woman who believed the lies about abortion, and like many women today, tragically used abortion as a violent form of birth control...and has paid a deadly price for it. There are also references and other testimonies from women hurt and damaged by legal abortion. Denise shares her spiritual journey and her favorite song is Amazing Grace. Rev. 12:11

Today Denise is a dynamic international speaker who has been interviewed on many television talk shows and radio stations. This book is sure to encourage prolifers, convert prochoicers and save babies from being exterminated. It is a good resource book for Pregnancy Crisis Centres, High Schools, Church and school libraries...

She is currently working on a new book called, The Bride...and Birth Control?

To Order these books or a Power Point Presentation send $20.00 for each to:
Together for Life Ministries
107 Discovery Ave. Morinville, AB. Canada, T8R 1N1
www.canadasilentnomore.com

[[Category: Testimony]]

Testimonies

2008-08-06T04:14:34Z

Islandrose:

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*[[THE LIES I BELIEVED]]
*[[Near Miss Harmed Me Emotionally]]
*[[Relieved that an abortion helped me hide my affair and move on with my life. Now it's 15 years later....]]

==Men's Testimonies==

==Other Parties' Testimonies==

==Reviews of Books Related to Abortion Experiences==

FORGIVEN of murder...A True Story by [[Denise Mountenay]]

This rivetting book is a candid account of a young woman who believed the lies about abortion, and like many women today, tragically used abortion as a violent form of birth control...and has paid a deadly price for it. There are also references and other testimonies from women hurt and damaged by legal abortion. Denise shares her spiritual journey and her favorite song is Amazing Grace. Rev. 12:11

Today Denise is a dynamic international speaker who has been interviewed on many television talk shows and radio stations. This book is sure to encourage prolifers, convert prochoicers and save babies from being exterminated. It is a good resource book for Pregnancy Crisis Centres, High Schools, Church and school libraries...

She is currently working on a new book called, The Bride...and Birth Control?

To Order these books or a Power Point Presentation send $20.00 for each to:
Together for Life Ministries
107 Discovery Ave. Morinville, AB. Canada, T8R 1N1
www.canadasilentnomore.com

[[Category: Testimony]]

Testimonies

2008-08-06T04:13:32Z

Islandrose:

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*[[THE LIES I BELIEVED]]
*[[Near Miss Harmed Me Emotionally]]
*[[Relieved that an abortion helped me hide my affair and move on with my life. Now it's 15 years later....]]

==Men's Testimonies==

==Other Parties Testimonies==

==Reviews of Books Related to Abortion Experiences==

FORGIVEN of murder...A True Story by [[Denise Mountenay]]

This rivetting book is a candid account of a young woman who believed the lies about abortion, and like many women today, tragically used abortion as a violent form of birth control...and has paid a deadly price for it. There are also references and other testimonies from women hurt and damaged by legal abortion. Denise shares her spiritual journey and her favorite song is Amazing Grace. Rev. 12:11

Today Denise is a dynamic international speaker who has been interviewed on many television talk shows and radio stations. This book is sure to encourage prolifers, convert prochoicers and save babies from being exterminated. It is a good resource book for Pregnancy Crisis Centres, High Schools, Church and school libraries...

She is currently working on a new book called, The Bride...and Birth Control?

To Order these books or a Power Point Presentation send $20.00 for each to:
Together for Life Ministries
107 Discovery Ave. Morinville, AB. Canada, T8R 1N1
www.canadasilentnomore.com

[[Category: Testimony]]

Relieved that an abortion helped me hide my affair and move on with my life. And then....

2008-08-06T04:12:55Z

Islandrose:

I was having an affair with a married man (oh, let's call him Jay) when I got pregnant. I instantly decided on an abortion. If you had asked for my reasons back then,

== I would have said, these are my reasons: ==

- I love Jay, so I have to take responsibility for my actions and fix this situation. I got pregnant because of ''my'' lazy attitude towards birth control. So I am the one who needs to make things right by having an abortion.

-if I have this child, it might cause the end of Jay's marriage. His wife will find out for sure.

-Jay's wife (let's call her Emily) is pregnant. If he tells her that he got me pregant, too, it will end her happiness and maybe mean that her baby will grow up with a divorced mom instead of in a family. Emily has thought of me as a friend, so the betrayal would be awful.

-Jay will have to tell Emily, because if I have a baby, I'll need child support and a lot of help. I can't do it on my own.

That's what I would have confessed to, but the more truthful answer would have been

== The real reasons: ==

-My mom and dad will be so ashamed of me.

-My family will disapprove and say nasty things.

-I'll lose my place as the competent daughter who has everything under control.

-My catty sister will look down on me and hold this over my head forever.

-I'll be the subject of gossip amongst neighbors and our extended family.

-My husband will find out. HIS family will say really horrible things.

-Everybody will know that I had an affair with a married man.

-Emily's mom and dad will say vicious things about me.

-My "I'm so perfect" act will not look so perfect anymore.

-I'll need to accept help from others, instead of being the helper.

-I really don't how to get through raising a child without a husband to help me.

-I don't want to confess the truth to Emily, my husband, and everybody else after all the lies I've told.

-Even if I have the baby and give the child up for adoption, everybody in my life would still know, right? How on earth could I hide a pregnancy for nine months? (I now know how I could have managed that, but I couldn't figure it out back then.)

== It was so easy to ignore the pro-lifers ==

When I thought about having an abortion, those pesky pro-life people barely got in the way at all. They said things like "but what if this is the only child you'll ever have?" and "what if you can't have children later because of the abortion?" They asked "what if you regret it later?" and "what if you become religious later in your life and regret it a lot?"

Clearly these people were insane, so it was easy to ignore them. I knew that I would have lots of children later, that I would never regret an abortion, and hey - if I were to become religious later, I'd ask God for forgiveness if I ever felt sorry about it. But I knew that would never happen; I didn't believe in God. I was strong, I was sensible, I was smart. I knew everything.

== And so I had my abortion ==

On a sunny afternoon in May I had my abortion. Other women in the recovery room were sobbing, but not me. I was happy about the whole thing, other than the physical pain. When I went home I was pleased with myself for handling a difficult situation with such competence. I felt empowered, and I was pleased to be a strong problem-solver who needed only a bit of medical care (the abortion) and no emotional support.

I thought about volunteering at the abortion center. As a feminist, I believed in a woman's right to choose, and helping to make abortion easily accessible seemed like a good cause.

== Fast forward 15 years ==

My mom and dad are dead. My catty sister isn't part of my life, and I never see my former neighbours or extended family. I shouldn't have cared about their opinions. In the long term, that didn't matter. I think Emily's mom and dad are dead, too.

Emily had her baby, and that girl has grown into a gorgeous, smart, and interesting teenager. Every time I see her I think that my own child would have been just about the same age. They would have been half-siblings, and maybe we could have found a way for a friendship between them.

After my affair with Jay ended, I realized that my marriage was a hopeless sham, so I left my husband. We got divorced.

Five years later I met and married Nicholas, the man of my dreams. We wanted a family of our own. I've been pregnant five times, but each pregnancy has led to a miscarriage or a stillborn baby. It's been heartbreaking, because we so wanted to have children. Doctors have not been able to help us with this, in spite of a stupid amount of medical testing and intervention.

If only I had welcomed that first pregnancy! Sure, the circumstances were less than ideal, but the child would have been wonderful nonetheless. I could have kept her and raised her myself - I know now that lots of people would have helped. Or I could have put her up for adoption. Either way, she'd be alive and celebrating life. (I have always imagined that child as a girl, though who knows?)

I am so sorry that I ended her life for my own convenience. Back then it felt like I was doing the only sensible thing. In retrospect, I know I killed my baby so that I wouldn't have to be embarassed about my affair.

Fifteen years ago I had no religion, and didn't want any, either. Nobody would ever have dreamed that I would wind up being Catholic, but that's exactly where I am now, so those pro-lifers were right after all. It's an odd twist of fate that the pro-lifers I held in such disdain were right about so many things: I did wind up regretting my abortion after all. I regret it very, very much.

Relieved that an abortion helped me hide my affair and move on with my life. And then....

2008-08-06T04:11:09Z

Islandrose: New page: I was having an affair with a married man (oh, let's call him Jay) when I got pregnant. I instantly decided on an abortion. If you had asked for my reasons back then, == I would have sai...

I was having an affair with a married man (oh, let's call him Jay) when I got pregnant. I instantly decided on an abortion. If you had asked for my reasons back then,

== I would have said, these are my reasons: ==

- I love Jay, so I have to take responsibility for my actions and fix this situation. I got pregnant because of ''my'' lazy attitude towards birth control. So I am the one who needs to make things right by having an abortion.

-if I have this child, it might cause the end of Jay's marriage. His wife will find out for sure.

-Jay's wife (let's call her Emily) is pregnant. If he tells her that he got me pregant, too, it will end her happiness and maybe mean that her baby will grow up with a divorced mom instead of in a family. Emily has thought of me as a friend, so the betrayal would be awful.

-Jay will have to tell Emily, because if I have a baby, I'll need child support and a lot of help. I can't do it on my own.

That's what I would have confessed to, but the more truthful answer would have been

== The real reasons: ==

-My mom and dad will be so ashamed of me.

-My family will disapprove and say nasty things.

-I'll lose my place as the competent daughter who has everything under control.

-My catty sister will look down on me and hold this over my head forever.

-I'll be the subject of gossip amongst neighbours and our extended family.

-My husband will find out. HIS family will say really horrible things.

-Everybody will know that I had an affair with a married man.

-Emily's mom and dad will say vicious things about me.

-My "I'm so perfect" act will not look so perfect anymore.

-I'll need to accept help from others, instead of being the helper.

-I really don't how to get through raising a child without a husband to help me.

-I don't want to confess the truth to Emily, my husband, and everybody else after all the lies I've told.

-Even if I have the baby and give the child up for adoption, everybody in my life would still know, right? How on earth could I hide a pregnancy for nine months? (I now know how I could have managed that, but I couldn't figure it out back then.)

== It was so easy to ignore the pro-lifers ==

When I thought about having an abortion, those pesky pro-life people barely got in the way at all. They said things like "but what if this is the only child you'll ever have?" and "what if you can't have children later because of the abortion?" They asked "what if you regret it later?" and "what if you become religious later in your life and regret it a lot?"

Clearly these people were insane, so it was easy to ignore them. I knew that I would have lots of children later, that I would never regret an abortion, and hey - if I were to become religious later, I'd ask God for forgiveness if I ever felt sorry about it. But I knew that would never happen; I didn't believe in God. I was strong, I was sensible, I was smart. I knew everything.

== And so I had my abortion ==

On a sunny afternoon in May I had my abortion. Other women in the recovery room were sobbing, but not me. I was happy about the whole thing, other than the physical pain. When I went home I was pleased with myself for handling a difficult situation with such competence. I felt empowered, and I was pleased to be a strong problem-solver who needed only a bit of medical care (the abortion) and no emotional support.

I thought about volunteering at the abortion center. As a feminist, I believed in a woman's right to choose, and helping to make abortion easily accessible seemed like a good cause.

== Fast forward 15 years ==

My mom and dad are dead. My catty sister isn't part of my life, and I never see my former neighbours or extended family. I shouldn't have cared about their opinions. In the long term, that didn't matter. I think Emily's mom and dad are dead, too.

Emily had her baby, and that girl has grown into a gorgeous, smart, and interesting teenager. Every time I see her I think that my own child would have been just about the same age. They would have been half-siblings, and maybe we could have found a way for a friendship between them.

After my affair with Jay ended, I realized that my marriage was a hopeless sham, so I left my husband. We got divorced.

Five years later I met and married Nicholas, the man of my dreams. We wanted a family of our own. I've been pregnant five times, but each pregnancy has led to a miscarriage or a stillborn baby. It's been heartbreaking, because we so wanted to have children. Doctors have not been able to help us with this, in spite of a stupid amount of medical testing and intervention.

If only I had welcomed that first pregnancy! Sure, the circumstances were less than ideal, but the child would have been wonderful nonetheless. I could have kept her and raised her myself - I know now that lots of people would have helped. Or I could have put her up for adoption. Either way, she'd be alive and celebrating life. (I have always imagined that child as a girl, though who knows?)

I am so sorry that I ended her life for my own convenience. Back then it felt like I was doing the only sensible thing. In retrospect, I know I killed my baby so that I wouldn't have to be embarassed about my affair.

Fifteen years ago I had no religion, and didn't want any, either. Nobody would ever have dreamed that I would wind up being Catholic, but that's exactly where I am now, so those pro-lifers were right after all. It's an odd twist of fate that the pro-lifers I held in such distain were right about so many things: I did wind up regretting my abortion after all. I regret it very, very much.

Testimonies

2008-08-06T03:26:57Z

Islandrose:

To start a new article, first edit the section in which you wish to add material by adding the article title with double brackets around it, like this <nowiki>[[My Article Title]]</nowiki>. After saving the page, double click on your article title and that will create a new blank page for you to start editing it.

*[[THE LIES I BELIEVED]]
*[[Near Miss Harmed Me Emotionally]]
*[[Relieved that an abortion helped me hide my affair and move on with my life. And then....]]

==Men's Testimonies==

==Other Parties Testimonies==

==Reviews of Books Related to Abortion Experiences==

FORGIVEN of murder...A True Story by [[Denise Mountenay]]

This rivetting book is a candid account of a young woman who believed the lies about abortion, and like many women today, tragically used abortion as a violent form of birth control...and has paid a deadly price for it. There are also references and other testimonies from women hurt and damaged by legal abortion. Denise shares her spiritual journey and her favorite song is Amazing Grace. Rev. 12:11

Today Denise is a dynamic international speaker who has been interviewed on many television talk shows and radio stations. This book is sure to encourage prolifers, convert prochoicers and save babies from being exterminated. It is a good resource book for Pregnancy Crisis Centres, High Schools, Church and school libraries...

She is currently working on a new book called, The Bride...and Birth Control?

To Order these books or a Power Point Presentation send $20.00 for each to:
Together for Life Ministries
107 Discovery Ave. Morinville, AB. Canada, T8R 1N1
www.canadasilentnomore.com

[[Category: Testimony]]